Dating Advice Tips for Women & Men

The world is a cosmopolitan place these days.  A global village in fact. Who knows where the next love of your life will orginate from?  How about memorising how to say ‘I love you’ in a hundred different languages.  That’s got to come in handy!

Well, in case you are wondering, the three magic words that every woman wants to here are Wo ai ni  in Chinese, Te amo in Latin (how romantic is that??), ‘Rwy’n dy garu in Welsh, and Doo-set daaram in Persian.  Click for the full list of how to say I love you in 100 different languages.

There’s been a whole industry (the PUA) created lately giving advice to unlucky in love (and lust) men, but what are the essential tips for the woman who is set on seduction?  Glamour magazine has had a go at redressing the balance with its 10 seduction tools that every woman needs..

Rule No. 1 is : Enough money of your own to let him know you’re not interested in his.

Another is : A birth control plan that heads off any post-seduction panic.

Click to read all 10 Dating and Seduction Tips for Women

You have probably read some of the remarkable stories increasingly appearing in the media concerning ‘oxytocin’, or to give it its popular tag – ‘the love hormone’.  Apparently, oxytocin – a naturally occurring hormone produced by the body, is being found to play a huge role in the feelings of trust, love and even sexual attraction, involved in relations between men and women.  If a simple hormone can lead to such bonding emotions being formed between couples, could it be used to our advantage when it comes to the dating game?  The answer would appear to be yes.  There are many ways that oxytocin can be raised naturally.  Physical touch is one – never forget to get touchy, feely on your dates…with tact and discretion of course.  Little things, like lightly touching your new date’s arm as you cross the road together, will increase the oxytocin in her brain and lead to a sense of trust and of having already bonded with you.

And there is, of course, already a quick fix to raising oxytocin and therefore of trust, both in yourself and your date (or the woman you are asking out).  Verolabs, and American company, have started selling the world’s first oxytocin ‘trust spray’, designed to increase trust in those that inhale it (you wear it like a perfume or a pheromone).  If you would like to try it and see if it improves your dating life you can order liquid trust spray online here.

A history professor at a British university has published a book detailing the facinating history of dating and personals services.  Extraordinarily, such services go way back in history, in fact the modern version found on the Internet are really only a more hi-tech version of the personals and lonely hearts columns that first appeared with the invention of the modern newspaper in the early 18th century.

Back in an age when most couples were already paired up for life before they had reached the age of 21, it’s easy to see why discreet personals advertisements peformed a vital service for those fearing that they might be ‘left on the shelf’.

Just like Internet dating today sometimes still is, classified advertisements were rather frowned upon by mainstream society, with the authorities regarding them as mediums for homosexuals, prostitutes and other ‘vices’.

US scientists have found that kissing might be an evolutionary tool we unconsciously use to determine the suitability of a potential lover.   Saliva exchanged during kissing contains a complex combination of chemicals and it is believed that these give each kisser clues as to the sexual ‘fitness’ of the other. 

“Chimpanzees and bonobos kiss. Foxes lick each other’s faces. Birds tap their bills together and elephants put their trunks in one another’s mouths.  So why do we do it? I think it is a tool for mate assessment. When you kiss, you can touch, see, feel, taste somebody. A huge part of our brain lights up. “

Kissing also appears to promote bonding through the raising of oxytocin during kissing and the reduction of the stress hormone cortisol.